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[vyvyanx]

My parents do irritate me more and more. I rang them again (first contact in about two months) and told them about my fellowship not being extended (because my father in particular _kept_going_on_ about it the last few times I spoke to him). At once my father began hassling me about getting another job. I said I had already applied for an OU position, which seemed quite a plausible prospect. Although my mother sounded pleased, my father instantly said I should look for other positions, and move to another country if necessary to get them, and sounded unimpressed by the pay I would get at the OU. He also decided to hassle me about getting my book published. I said I had a number of potential publishers, and could probably get it done through the Philological Society if necessary, though this would mean no royalties. This displeased my father as well, who thought I should only go somewhere I could get money for it. He then went off to work on his car, and I talked to my mum a bit. She sounded like she'd been crying already, and on the verge of tears throughout our conversation, but said she had absolutely no news for me. She asked in great detail about the welfare of my last two exes and friend A., but never even mentioned G. It's as if they've decided to totally ignore the present reality of my life and hopes, and only want to pester me about what they want me to achieve in the future. I feel absolutely no inclination to contact them or visit them in the near future.
I cannot believe they are being like this. Particularly my mother (I never did get on with my father particularly well), who I was unbelievably close to as a child and a teenager, when I had no other friends of any sort. We talked to each other the whole time, we knew each other _so_well_ - I couldn't imagine my mother would ever act like this towards me. It seems like a tragedy.

Comments

[valkyriekaren.livejournal.com]

I am so, so sorry that your parents are being like this.

It sometimes occurs to me that if offspring don't have a 'rebel phase', their parents have to invent one for them, so any little thing contrary to their wishes is perceived by them as a huge act of rebellion.

[meirion.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

you might have noticed that i'm not deeply impressed by my parents (well, my father; my mother's not in any fit mental state to be unpleasant) at the moment either. i know exactly what the tragedy of not being able to talk to your mother feels like, because i've got the same problem only from different causes (and with no hope of remedy, either).

my father is currently unimpressed with me because i've failed to negotiate more out of my company in return for my invention than i felt comfortable with. this is his problem, not mine ;-)

-m-

Philological

[olithered.livejournal.com]

What's one of those?

Re: Philological

[vyvyan.livejournal.com]

Study of language (in a rather traditional conservative kind of way).